Divorce is not an option

Almost everybody I know has done the dating seen. Dating and sleeping with several people before settling down with our true love, or the closed we can find to our true love. Is our generation so different from our parents generation? Why can our parents keep their marriage together and our generation can not?

When I was a kid my foster father made me watch Fiddler on the Roof. In one of the sense of the moves the tailor asks his wife “do you love me” and she answers "for “twenty five years she cooked his meals, for twenty five years she cleaned his cloths, for twenty five years she raised his children, and then answers “Yeas I suppose I do”. The tailor and his wife had an arranged marriage, they learned how to love each other as apposed to loving each other when they got married.

I have been blessed to have several great (married couples) role-modes in my life. They are the type of couples that you never see argue in public. They are the type off couples that have been together for twenty somewhat years and still going strong. When they play fight you can still see the love in there eyes. Thinking about them makes me wonder, is it a different generation or are they just better at controlling there desires then we are?

Most of our parents want us to believe that they where virgins when they got married. Many people in my life religious and not, ended up having sex before they got married. Proving further more that our parents where probably not virgins when they go married. The sixty’s and seventies where not friendly to virgins. Lol

I was very fortunate that I lived with my husband for fore years before we got married. I really got to know him and all his quarks. When we finally decided to get married not much had changed for us. We still lived in the same apartment. We still shared the same bed. We still did our laundry together, and still argued over who’s turn it was to clean the bathroom. All in all I am very happy that I made the decision to live with him before we got married.

When we first started living together our parents did not like this idea. Both our parents argued that if we move in together and are sleeping with each other this situation will not let our relationship progress. One of my good friend once pointed out, that perhaps our parents worried we will get tired of having sex with each other and drift apart because we do not have marriage documentation holding us together?

Luck for my husband and I, sex is one of the reasons we stayed together. Honestly my husband is not my first man, nor my second, nor my third. Prier to meeting my husband I have broken up with people because I do not find them compatible in bed. Sometimes you meet a man that is so handsome, and funny and you have great conversation, but once you sleep with him it changes your perspective. You can always tell between a man who enjoys women and a man copying a seen from a porno he saw earlier that morning. We have all been with that guy that ends you leaving sore and uncomfortable. You don’t want to return his call in the worry that you might have to do it again. Lol

I guess the difference between our generation and out parents generation is,now at days it is acceptable to have sex without getting married. Having multiple partners before getting married can be both good and bad. The good thing is, multiple partners can teach us the difference between sex and love. The bad news is, you can find yourself having sex with someone that is in love. "Its Complicated". On a separate note> I'm so happy I did not marry my firs. He is still a lost case. lol

In our parents time couples where encouraged to marry after or before having sex. Once you are married, if one of the partners is not good at something in the relationship they have to keep working at it until they get it right. The posses of devours was lengthy and expensive. Couples stuck it out together until they figured out how to make it work or at least make it work in public.

Now at days most women work and some man had to learn how to be a stay at home dad. We keep teaching our children how to be sensitive and express there feelings, but we are forgetting to teach them how to work hard and appreciate what they have.
Or parents are able to keep their relationships strong because they change with the times. Now that most women work, so do most of our moms. Our dads had to swallow thee pride and learn now to clean the house and change diapers. They had to learn how to start where the other person finished. This can only happen in a relationship where both people are committed to an endless love, because they know divorce is not an option.